Have you ever wondered if people deliberately turn off their brain function? I know I have. From time to time, I find my Dad’s care at the nursing home lacking in common sense. To put it bluntly, when his personalized care plan is not followed, I want to exclaim to the person responsible: “don’t you have a brain inside your head?”
Sometimes, these lapses in judgement could be seen as medical errors. Other times, these “mistakes” are quality of life issues that have a big impact on my Dad. Either way, they should never be seen as petty or unimportant.
The word stupid may be one way to categorize these thoughtless actions. Merriam-Webster defines stupid as: “given to unintelligent decisions or acts: acting in an unintelligent or careless manner.”
Although we will never know someone’s justification for taking shortcuts when providing care, I believe it has something to do with that person’s compassion and sensitivity. A staff member of my Dad’s nursing home once remarked to me that compassion is not something that can be taught. I don’t agree with her.
By showing compassion and love for others, we set an example to follow. That example shines light into dark corners and illuminates everything in and around them. I believe that people can learn to be more compassionate, but sometimes, they turn away from what they know is right and instead, embrace what is wrong.
My Dad is unable to make any of his needs known. Although we speak for Dad now, our voices are not always heard. We can only hope and pray that those caring for him make the right choices—choices motivated by common sense, compassion, and the Golden Rule.